oldschoolfan
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I couldn't help but observe the tension that's building between everyone recently. There has been quite a bit of, I won't say FIGHTING, but it's getting there. I am really starting to worry about it because I know this is a safe haven for a lot of people, and I'd hate to think things end up like they did a few years ago where I ended up leaving as MJslave because the fighting got too much. It took me 4 years to come back and I was glad to see the bickering was gone.
I know that after Michael's death the tension is high, Michael's murderer still out there, resentments towards everyone who's jumped on the bandwagon, people profiting from his death, knowing that if he'd recieved that respect while he was alive he probably wouldn't be dead. Then there is the bittersweetness of seeing him everywhere, seeing the memorial, movie, funeral and a million bloody tributes from every celebrity under the sun.
Then of course, there is the questions of the allegations. Dun dun dun...
I know a lot of people are stressing about it all again, and there is good reason that some people would- the FBI files, false claims Jordan confessed, Evan topping himself, that guy in California calling Michael a paedophile (whatever the hell his name was), and the simple fact we just want a freaking answer already.
And the fact we have recieved absolutely NO closure over Michael's death.
I could go on and on, but yall know what I'm talking about.
But my point of all this is- we need to be tolerant of each other, we need to allow people to vent, we need to allow people to ask questions and voice opinions and just get it out, because really, who else do we have to talk about it other than each other? We are all together because we have one big thing in common- we love Michael. When a friend or family memeber dies we can talk about it to whoever we want and most people will understand. But when you are still crying over Michael six months after his death, most people just not going to get that. So for a lot of people on here, this the one and only place they have where they can talk about it and vent and question, and for a lot of people this is the only place they can even mention Michael's name.
So we need to remember to stay calm and not get bitter at each other. If someone talks about something you don't agree with that's fine, please don't be nasty to each other. Everyone else is going to be involved in any bickering that goes purely by seeing it, therefore everyones tension is going to build and it results in more fighting. I had a very nasty falling out with a member recently and that member has dissappeared a few weeks ago, and I personally think I know exactly why that person left. Of course I'd have loved to go on about what happened, but I know that it just cannot go down here, I have avoided any conversation with this person purely because I am going to get nasty, and I didn't want others to have to listen to that. So I bit my tongue. And it was damn well hard I won't deny. But it was not impossible. We all sometimes need to bite our tongues, not to say debating is wrong because that is fine, but when it's getting nasty we need to think about all the things that have happened and try to keep the peace.
The tension has really built up after Michael's death, there are so many people we can blame, but we can't until we know who they all are and how they were exactly involved. So who do we retaliate at? Each other of course.
What would Michael think if he knew his death had caused that tension? Would he feel guilty knowing that the mistake he made of accepting Murray's 'help' has resulted in all this stress? Michael wasn't about that at all, he ALWAYS turned the other cheek. Always.
It's okay to be stressed and angry and resentful, it's okay to not want to discuss certain things, but everyone is different and some people are more worked up about certain things than others. I for one am worked up about the allegations. Over the last few weeks I have almost become obessed with it, I have been reading books, reading the FBI files, trial documents, searching for info and of course carrying on about it non-stop. It's as though I need to find closure in it, nobody else wants to come out with the answer so I feel the need to find it myself. And I know that one or two people haven't liked that, there are people on here that really just don't want to talk about it. But I also know that there are some people on here that have become just as obsessed with it as me and want to talk about it and there is no reason why these people shouldn't. Whenever there is something on here I don't have an interest in I simply just don't look, but there are some things I just HAVE to rant about because for me, dealing with Michael's death means needing certain answers. I need to know who I am truly mourning for, where did it all begin.
But for others there way dealing is to just not want to know about certain things, and then some just want to cry, and some want to talk about personal problems. It is all okay. When someone doesn't deal with it the way you do does not mean we should get angry, it means we should get tolerant, just in the way we would wish for someone to be tolerant for us when we deal in our own particular way.
We are all here for each other, and our answers will all come one day. They WILL. Until then, let's stick together and know that although we may have different opinions, we have different feelings and we have different ways of dealing, we are all here for one thing- Justice for Michael.
And remember guys-
Peace out. XxXx
I know that after Michael's death the tension is high, Michael's murderer still out there, resentments towards everyone who's jumped on the bandwagon, people profiting from his death, knowing that if he'd recieved that respect while he was alive he probably wouldn't be dead. Then there is the bittersweetness of seeing him everywhere, seeing the memorial, movie, funeral and a million bloody tributes from every celebrity under the sun.
Then of course, there is the questions of the allegations. Dun dun dun...
I know a lot of people are stressing about it all again, and there is good reason that some people would- the FBI files, false claims Jordan confessed, Evan topping himself, that guy in California calling Michael a paedophile (whatever the hell his name was), and the simple fact we just want a freaking answer already.
And the fact we have recieved absolutely NO closure over Michael's death.
I could go on and on, but yall know what I'm talking about.
But my point of all this is- we need to be tolerant of each other, we need to allow people to vent, we need to allow people to ask questions and voice opinions and just get it out, because really, who else do we have to talk about it other than each other? We are all together because we have one big thing in common- we love Michael. When a friend or family memeber dies we can talk about it to whoever we want and most people will understand. But when you are still crying over Michael six months after his death, most people just not going to get that. So for a lot of people on here, this the one and only place they have where they can talk about it and vent and question, and for a lot of people this is the only place they can even mention Michael's name.
So we need to remember to stay calm and not get bitter at each other. If someone talks about something you don't agree with that's fine, please don't be nasty to each other. Everyone else is going to be involved in any bickering that goes purely by seeing it, therefore everyones tension is going to build and it results in more fighting. I had a very nasty falling out with a member recently and that member has dissappeared a few weeks ago, and I personally think I know exactly why that person left. Of course I'd have loved to go on about what happened, but I know that it just cannot go down here, I have avoided any conversation with this person purely because I am going to get nasty, and I didn't want others to have to listen to that. So I bit my tongue. And it was damn well hard I won't deny. But it was not impossible. We all sometimes need to bite our tongues, not to say debating is wrong because that is fine, but when it's getting nasty we need to think about all the things that have happened and try to keep the peace.
The tension has really built up after Michael's death, there are so many people we can blame, but we can't until we know who they all are and how they were exactly involved. So who do we retaliate at? Each other of course.
What would Michael think if he knew his death had caused that tension? Would he feel guilty knowing that the mistake he made of accepting Murray's 'help' has resulted in all this stress? Michael wasn't about that at all, he ALWAYS turned the other cheek. Always.
It's okay to be stressed and angry and resentful, it's okay to not want to discuss certain things, but everyone is different and some people are more worked up about certain things than others. I for one am worked up about the allegations. Over the last few weeks I have almost become obessed with it, I have been reading books, reading the FBI files, trial documents, searching for info and of course carrying on about it non-stop. It's as though I need to find closure in it, nobody else wants to come out with the answer so I feel the need to find it myself. And I know that one or two people haven't liked that, there are people on here that really just don't want to talk about it. But I also know that there are some people on here that have become just as obsessed with it as me and want to talk about it and there is no reason why these people shouldn't. Whenever there is something on here I don't have an interest in I simply just don't look, but there are some things I just HAVE to rant about because for me, dealing with Michael's death means needing certain answers. I need to know who I am truly mourning for, where did it all begin.
But for others there way dealing is to just not want to know about certain things, and then some just want to cry, and some want to talk about personal problems. It is all okay. When someone doesn't deal with it the way you do does not mean we should get angry, it means we should get tolerant, just in the way we would wish for someone to be tolerant for us when we deal in our own particular way.
We are all here for each other, and our answers will all come one day. They WILL. Until then, let's stick together and know that although we may have different opinions, we have different feelings and we have different ways of dealing, we are all here for one thing- Justice for Michael.
And remember guys-
Peace out. XxXx